The Next Chapter of My Life

I had not even told my husband, children or even close friends about this exciting and rewarding venture I was about to embark on. It was July 30, 2009; I had filled out my application with US Continental Pageant, and in front of the 'blue box' outside of the Post Office. I had chosen to go to the post office to mail my application for fear that I would just take it out of my mail box.

With butterflies in my stomach, my hands shaking, I pushed the envelope into the 'blue box'. It was done; I could not dig into the mailbox without taking the risk of committing a felony.

I drove off trying to pretend I had done nothing. However, I knew this could potentially change my life forever. . . what in the world had I done?

When I was safely away from the scary 'blue box' I called my niece, “It’s Done!” I said, “I hope you are happy! I am a nervous wreck!”

You need to understand, that with the encouragement of my niece Christina, I was reaching far outside my comfort zone. I was seeking the Title as Ms. Western States Us Continental.

Let's jump ahead, on Thursday August 13, 2009 I had an appointment with Loreen Olney, the Executive Director of the US Continental Pageant. With a smile she handed me my letter...

Dear Elaine,

CONGRATULATIONS! The selection committee has chosen you, Elaine Ruitman as Ms Western States, ....

This portion of the letter is to be given to the community, businesses, sponsors, etc.

...Elaine Ruitman as Ms. Western States US Continental . . . will be available to assist you in many ways. Perhaps you would like her to act as an Emcee, or as an 'Official Hostess' for an upcoming event. You may wish to have her as a spokesperson for your next fund-raising campaign. She can ride in parades, sign autographs, shake hands, and attract a crowd like you've never seen before!

Signed by Loreen Olney


For me this has not been about beauty or fame, it has been about reaching out to those of who have felt, or currently are feeling the unforgiving pressures we put upon ourselves as women (men) and mothers (fathers) in the communities we live in.

My goal is to help us all see past the pitfalls of life. I hope to encourage all to gain the strength to rise each day with gladness in our hearts, and not feeling the apprehensions of facing yet another day.

I have been there, unfortunately. I placed expectations on myself and on those immediately around me that were unrealistic. Those expectations became a hinderment for any type of growth my life. I began to question myself and the decisions that I made.

I have always looked at myself as being an optimist, however at times I have struggled.

I look forward to the opportunities and challenges that come with this Title.

Please help me fulfill my goals to be an example and help in your communities and circles.

Sincerely
Elaine F Ruitman
Ms Western States
FeelingFreeToBeMe@gmail.com